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Over the last two days, you heard my story. The long path it took me to get to where I am today. I went through insomnia, panic attacks, anxiety, poor digestion, deep loss, baby blues.
Life seemed pretty ok on the outside. I was living the typical suburban mom life. The nice house, nice cars, great trips, kids in all sorts of activities. Everything seemed fine, except I was surviving and reacting to my life as it came at me and had no idea how to live my best life.
My journey took me to different doctors, therapists, I hired a coach, read books, became a student and faced many struggles, trials, and errors. The journey for me was long.
When I realized that the power was always within me and that if I changed internally, my external/physical world would change, my life has never been the same.
Once I learned how to tap into my inner GPS I was able to heal.
When our mind, body, and spirit work together, miracles become the norm.
Some of the obvious benefits I got from my journey are glorious sleep, my anxiety is gone, my panic attacks are gone, and for the first time in my life, I have healthy self-esteem. (Not to say it doesn’t get triggered. But I’ve come so far, and now I know what to do when it does get triggered.)
There were also some shifts that completely surprised me. There were many many shifts in my marriage. Just one example is that I took my power back. We all know that our spouses can trigger us like no one else. Previously, I would get defensive, feel attacked and lash out when something my husband said triggered me. No one wins in that cycle and the cycle is endless. With a new awareness, I am able to not take it personally, choose my reaction instead of being reactive, and completely change the pattern and form new ones.
I focused on self-love and building a new relationship with myself, and rewriting my inner self-talk. I had a story that losing weight was hard. Once I changed my story, eating healthy came easier, when I had previously tried many different ways of eating and did cleanses etc.. Working out came so much easier instead of feeling like hard work. I feel at home in my body.
There was an old friend I had a lot of history with and we were no longer friends, but every time I would see her all this resentment would come up. I was able to forgive myself, forgive her, look at the lesson and release it all. Now when I see her I can thank her for that lesson and send her love.
I used to get sick pretty often, just a virus here, a cold there. When I realized this was my body’s subconscious coping mechanism for being seen in the world, I changed my story and now rarely get sick. For instance, every time I would start a new project, I would get sick. Or if there was something I really needed to say to my husband, but I was scared, I would get sick.
I started being vulnerable and showing myself to the world and started a blog. This was really putting myself out there, doing Live videos, my inner mean girl spoke up really strong, “you’re not good enough,” “what if no one reads this or cares?,” but I kept showing up and it just got easier and I got stronger.
I am a better parent. I was so reactive and nervous that I was going to screw these kids up. By choosing to trust and setting intentions and changing my story that raising good kids is easy, the right doctors have shown up right when I need them, the right tutors and the exact webinar I needed to hear. I am much more relaxed and patient and present for my kids.
I have so much more joy than I ever have had before because I am choosing it. I have a morning routine that sets my day up for it. I added more fun and play into my life. For my most recent birthday, my girlfriends and I took a pole dancing class. We had so much fun. It felt so freeing and joyful.
I am more in touch with my intuition and experience amazing synchronicities. When I put the intention out there that I was creating an amazing tribe of women around me, I had 2 women that I sort of knew for years, suddenly reach out to me for coffee and we have deeply bonded.
I still love all things healthy, as taking care of our bodies is a form of self-love, and will still be weaving that into what I do.
After all of these discoveries, I wanted to share what I learned with other women. So, I reached out to a friend who was having panic attacks. We got together once a week, I shared tools and tips and within 8 weeks her panic attacks were gone, her anxiety was greatly reduced. She released a codependent relationship that no longer served her. She started to feel her feelings instead of distracting herself, and she started to intentionally develop a loving relationship with herself for the first time.
This sparked a new passion in me.
So when I saw an acquaintance post something about working on loving herself more, I reached out and asked if she’d be interested in meeting once a week. She was, and her results were awesome too. She started implementing self-care and not feeling guilty about it, facing her fears and things she was avoiding, is working on a morning routine to start off day calm and relaxed, and is asking for what she needs from her husband, plus many other shifts.
I got so much joy out of helping these women and seeing them make these changes to their lives, which then heals families, then communities.
I want to see if there are others out there who are interested in loving themselves more, releasing limiting beliefs and creating lives they love?
I want to hear your story.
Does my journey resonate with you at all?
What difficulties have you faced along your journey?
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I’ll definitely be sharing more in the next few weeks.
We’re all in this together.
Thank you for listening.
There’s a reason I chose to share my story on Valentine’s Day. As women, many of us were taught to look outside of ourselves for love.
Have you ever been upset that a significant other didn’t get you the right gift, or pay enough attention to you?
Have you ever felt lonely on Valentine’s Day?
When you love yourself, you don’t need someone else to fill you up. Yes, it’s nice to be appreciated and get a gift, or have a nice dinner. But when you love yourself, those things are just a nice bonus. So fill your cup first, then you have love to share with others.
So don’t forget about yourself this V Day. Give yourself some flowers, get your nails done, wear that sexy underwear just for you. Take an important first step toward self-love.
Wishing you so much self-love on this Valentine’s Day and always.